OSCAR WILDE Observes:
IF given the choice between being present and not talked about or being talked about and not being present, I would choose a middle ground. That is, I would choose to be present, and being the one talking... about myself, of course.
MARK TWAIN Remarks:
Should you choose the extreme on any position one half of the people will judge you to be wrong. Should you choose the middle ground between the two extremes both sides will judge you to be wrong. And they would be right to do so.